Will my friends join me for a year of drawing? 

Resolutions! I make them every year and they're always along the same lines - run more, be more organised with work/deadlines, drink less wine, treat my body well, all that stuff... and it's starting to feel a bit joyless and monotonous. I mean, take my iron pills. Is that the best I can do? 

So I've been thinking about what I'd really like to achieve in 2017 - and most of it is the usual obvious stuff: work productively without tumbling into blind panic. I have two books to write: the 2nd in my Ellen Berry series as soon as humanly possible (it IS started!) and my next standalone novel by the summer. I'll still run and do yoga, as without those things I get a bit ratty and cabin feverish. So all that's fine. But it doesn't feel terrible new and different. So I thought.. what would I really like to do? And the one thing is DRAW EVERY DAY. 

Why? Because...  

I just love it 

It makes me notice ordinary things around me

It forces me to sit down and be still for a bit 

I write all the time and drawing ISN'T writing (although it helps with writing!) 

The only way to get better at something is to do it every day, right? 

And I'd like to get MUCH better 

I pondered and pondered (I'm a terrible ponderer) about what a 'draw every day' project might entail, and how best to go about it.  

What should I draw? 

Should I use a big posh sketchbook or a smaller one for carrying around?  

Should I share my stuff on Instagram and FB and, if so, how often to avoid friends getting sick of it? 

What is the POINT of it? 

What about all the other things I should be doing? 

Should I have rules - ie, draw only from 'real' (ie, not imaginary and not from photos) or just do whatever? 

What if I can't keep it up?
What if it's all crap? 

I decided to just get on with it - no one's going to complain or criticise and the only thing that matters really is doing it. Even if I don't manage every single day, there'll still be tons of drawings I wouldn't have done otherwise.

Anyway, I will NOT FAIL! 

Children are great at this sort of thing. Give them pens and paper and they'll just make a picture and not care. They know there is no such thing as a bad drawing. I was like that as a kid, prolific and unselfconscious - all I really did was ride my bike, collect nerdy things like stamps, coins, fossils, gemstones and old bottles I'd dug up from the tip - and draw.  At Christmas, nothing was more exciting than receiving a massive tin of coloured pencils, all razor-sharp and arranged in perfect rainbow order. And then I grew up and lost all confidence in drawing, painting, making things. Or maybe motivation. So many other things clamoured for attention - like the thrill of moving away from home and living in Dundee, then London, and working on magazines and having a family of my own. I got stuck into raising three children and writing novels, and forgot about how lovely it feels to just sit down and draw something. 

Then a couple of years ago I was inspired by friends' drawings on Facebook and tentatively shared a few things from a long-ago holiday sketchbook. Friends were amazingly kind about them which spurred me on. I started drawing again and it felt great.  

So that's that - my resolution for 2017: DRAW EVERY DAY. These are a few things I've drawn this week in the big run-up to 2017:

Leftover Christmas condiments
Bananas
Ben

Let's do this thing! 

No rules. No worrying about the fanciness of the sketchbook or what the heck to draw - if there's nothing but a banana sitting in front of us then let's draw that. If there isn't even a banana, then nip out and get some.

And let's share and not be shy! 

Fiona x  #everydaydrawing2017. 

Never 'the twins' to me

University looms. Our twin sons are counting the days until they can flee the nest. One has chosen Glasgow, while his brother is heading for Edinburgh: they are going their separate ways. I’m not surprised. While Jimmy and I have rarely thought of them as 'the twins’, they have put up with being a pair for 18 years. 

Naturally, it hasn’t been all bad. They were playmates as children, taking delight in the pranks which caused my hair to turn grey and their dad’s to fall out. Loneliness has never been a factor for them. Yet spending so much time together can’t have been easy either. Imagine being married to someone, with whom you are also expected to work and socialise. Imagine people constantly exclaiming, ‘Wow - you’re really quite different people!’ 

Our boys have always sat side by side at the dinner table and in the car. They've been taken out to buy school uniforms together and been in many of the same classes at school. Occasionally, friends have sent them shared birthday cards - a massive faux pas in their book - and, of course, larger presents (eg, the wooden fort) were bought for them to play with together. Until secondary school they shared a bedroom and on holidays they’d be squished up together in a tiny tent. Who wouldn't be a little sick of seeing that other person's face?

As an only child myself, I can’t quite imagine how it feels to have a sibling - let alone a twin. But I’m sure it’s pretty annoying to have a relative refer to you as ‘that one’ or ‘the other one’, or to attract your attention by calling out, ‘Boys!’ when only one of you is present. 

I can understand their fierce desire for independence - not just from us, tedious Mum and Dad who nag about untidy bedrooms and staying out too late - but from each other too. To be able to reinvent yourself as an individual is a wonderful thing. I vividly remember the day I left home, in 1982, when my parents dropped me off at a bedsit in Dundee where I was starting a new job. The fact that I would be living on the east coast of Scotland - while my parents were on the west - felt about right. Suddenly finding myself alone felt thrilling and slightly scary. It also occurred to me, as Mum and Dad drove away, that now - within reason - I could do, and be, anything I wanted. 

Before our boys picked their courses, certain friends suggested that we should encourage them to choose the same uni and buy a flat for them to share. Never mind that we don’t have the cash for investing in property. Imagine being forced to be flatmates with your twin! They have bickered over who finished the last of the milkshake for long enough. They deserve a break from all that - and from each other. 

Although Jimmy and I have tried to make each of our sons feel like their own person, there’s a limit to how much a time-pressed parent can do. Friends with triplets used to make a point of taking each daughter out individually for some one-to-one time. I was in awe at how they managed it. Jimmy and I tried this too - but, realistically, it was so much easier to go out en mass. Perhaps a better mother than me would have read each child their own bedtime story - but, realistically, who has the time or the energy for that? They were lucky if I managed to get through The Elves and the Shoemaker without conking out and dribbling on their pillow. 

While I’m sad at the thought of our boys leaving us, I can understand their keenness to be viewed as individuals and not just one of a pair. So I’ll put on a big, brave smile as we set out to buy two duvets/pillows/starter packs of crockery. I’ll comfort myself with the thought that, while we haven’t been perfect parents, we’ve just done our best. And now they no longer need us. 

It's fine, of course it is. What am I, one of those mothers who hates the idea of her kids growing up? No... I just seem to have something in my eye. 

It's Publication Day!

My new novel, As Good as It Gets?, is out in paperback today. Publication Day is a funny old thing: not quite what I’d anticipated when my first novel was published in 2003. I suppose I’d expected something rather like Christmas - ie, a whole load of fuss and excitement and booze. It was exciting - I remember an enormous bouquet arriving from my publisher, and waking up thinking, ‘My book is OUT!!’ - but not quite in the way I’d expected. 

I took a trip to Glasgow to prowl around the bookstores. There was my novel, sitting on a shelf in a shop in between books by proper writers. I loitered about, all hot-faced and anxious, wanting to murmur to shoppers, ‘Er, what about that one? I’ve heard it’s actually quite good?’ 

At least there was no more worrying about whether I could have done better, or mulling over the many mistakes I’d probably made. It was out in the world now, which meant it was too late to change anything. It was a little like packing up your kid’s possessions in a big cardboard box and seeing him off to university. Christ, you think, driving away from his student halls, I’m still not sure he can fry an egg without setting his hair on fire. And will he remember to apply his athlete's foot ointment? Well, that's his look-out. You’ve done your work. You’re out of the picture now. You can have another baby! JOKE... 

In fact, what I really love about Publication Day is the way it boosts me to get on with making the next one. It's due to my editor by June, and will be out early next year. It’s a rolling process, which I happen to love: it feels fast-moving and exciting and you can’t be too precious about anything. I used to sweat for three days over a single paragraph but these days, if it's not flowing reasonably easily, I move on to a part that I’m eager to write, and come back to the tricky bit later. 

I’ve also stopped thrusting great wads of manuscript into friends’ hands and pleading for feedback. It's my book; I don't have to drag my poor buddies through the process. My friend who's a database analyst doesn't make me sit in his office and watch him tapping his keyboard. Anyway, they're unlikely to say, 'Chapter 12 is appalling. Were you drunk when you wrote it?' And when they’re kind and encouraging, there’s a tendency to think, ‘Of course you’re going to say that. You’re my friend!’ 

I prefer to go it alone these days, battering on until it’s as good as it can possibly be at that point, and it’s time for my editor’s input. Sure, things can get stressy, but I like to bear in mind a quote I read by Guy Garvey from Elbow, in a Guardian feature about how to find inspiration. He’s talking about songwriting but it’s still stayed with me. He says: ‘If it’s all getting too intense, remember it’s only a song.’ 

I think that’s brilliant. It sort of shrinks the project down to size, making it seem instantly less scary and intimidating. Suddenly, it seems doable. It feels like the difference between being given a vast stately home garden to knock into shape, or a little window box of chives. 

He also says, ‘I learned that the hard way. When I was younger I played the part of the erratic, irascible drunk in order to have something to write about.' Talking of which, the writing group I belong to are coming over tonight. There are seven of us, all great friends, and I can't think of anyone I'd rather celebrate with. Better stick that wine in the fridge... 

Young hearts run free...

Small children may be a handful but at least you know where they are. Even when they’re toddling, you can move faster than they can. As they want to be with you pretty much all of the time, you're never hit with that wave of horror ('Oh my God, where is he?' Answer: on you). 

Then… everything changes and there comes a point at which they don’t want us around at all. They want to go out without us while we stay at home, doing our tedious grown-up stuff. My sons were nine when this happened: a bit young to be playing out alone, you might think, but we live in a sleepy country town with few obvious hazards. Apart from one falling-off-a-bike incident (broken arm) and being whacked in the face with a hockey stick (smashed tooth), all the numerous dashes to A&E have been caused by incidents at home. 

Yet we're still scared of the great outdoors when our kids are small. It doesn't make any sense. If you consider the hazards in your average home - oven, iron, fireplace, booze, all of which can be horribly dangerous if handled without due care - then playing in the park is as close to a haven of safety as you can possibly get.  

In my childhood West Yorkshire village I played out with no parent hovering nearby from the age of four. Friends and I would force entry into a derelict textile mill and charge about on the rotting wooden floors. There was a metal trough - it can't have been more than a foot wide - which spanned a gorge and was ideal for running across. We swam in a dam and cycled for miles and nothing terrible happened. Okay, a man flashed at me once (old-style, with raincoat, from a hillside). 'I saw the front of a man!' I yelled, pelting into my house. Mum just gave me a curious look and carried on stirring the pot on the stove.  I think she suspected I was making it up. 

When the teenage years hit, I wanted to be as far away from my parents as humanly possible. My own kids are the same. ‘They’re allergic to us,’ a friend complained, when we were discussing our kids’ unwillingness to come along on family days out - and of course it’s hurtful at first. Normal, though. And let's be realistic: yes, it would be quite sweet to go Edinburgh Zoo with my almost eighteen-year old twin sons. But I'd be unable to shake off the suspicion that they were regarding the trip as ironic, in a sort of, 'Can't wait to Tweet about this - my day at the zoo with Mum and Dad! Haha!' kind of way. And they'd force us to stand there smiling in front of some baboons and take our picture and all their friends would laugh at it. 

Even if that didn't happen, I'd suspect they'd only come along to humour us. I don't want to be patronised at the zoo, thank you very much. I get plenty of that at home: 'Mum's come to the point where she'd quite like an iPod. She's saying how handy it would be to have all her music on a little portable device. She's like someone in the first ever iPod focus group! HAHA.' 

Anyway the baboon scenario is hypothetical because the only way I'll persuade any children of mine to come to the zoo with me is if I adopt some younger ones. And since my offspring nearly peed themselves at my 'massive' forehead - they'd never seen my fringe pulled back before - I've decided I've had quite enough cheek off kids. So off they go, every weekend - to Glasgow and Edinburgh, our nearest cities, both an hour’s journey away. This started when they were 15. I fretted madly at first: was this too young to be in a big, scary city with a bunch of similarly giddy adolescents? Then I asked myself: what was I scared of exactly? What could possibly happen to them in Top Man? 

As the years crept on, my sons started going on ‘camp-outs’, a favoured teenage activity in these rural parts. The idea is, a bunch of friends head off into the wilds for the night with food, guitars, a tent and sleeping bags and return, looking like corpses that have been dragged through dung, at around 9.30 am next day. I’m not foolish enough to believe that they lounge around practising the knot-work skills they learnt at Scouts. And of course I was iffy about it at first. But at 16 they needed their space.

Last year, at 17, my boys announced that they were going on a week’s holiday to Paris together. I felt no more than a small tingle of nerves as they set off for their flight. Next it was our turn. My husband Jimmy and I went to the South of France for a week, leaving our boys home alone (our youngest child had been taken on holiday by a friend’s family). We were aware that two teenagers together are possibly capable of getting up to more hi-jinx than a singleton left alone. But then, a singleton wouldn’t be alone for long: word would get out and friends would converge and it wouldn't be your house any more, it would be the Chelsea Hotel. 

On our return, our sons vowed that they hadn’t had a party. But there was a ragged crack in the bathroom door and I kept finding the odd New Look stiletto lying about. It was only a ‘gathering’, I was told. Worrying. But not half as scary as that first time they went to the park. 

Frugal beauty

Long, long ago, when dinosaurs roamed the earth and I was a beauty editor on a teen magazine, I used to write stuff like this: 'Winter is a cruel season. Icy weather makes our skin dry and flaky and....' Well, yes, you get the picture. But it happens to be true. We're all prone to chapped lips and cracked hands, after all. It also happens to be the time of year when the ravaged bank account means we're hardly in the market for a luxury moisturiser at £45 a pop. But that doesn't matter because, having spent every winter since my early thirties literally slathering myself in every cream/oil imaginable, I've realised that the very cheapest products do a remarkably decent job.

Personally I despise that lizardy feeling, when skin goes all reptilian from around October onwards. And I'll fight it to the death no matter how broke I am.

First up, I love a good body scrub in the shower. In The Thrift Book (Penguin), author India Knight recommends making a paste with olive oil and sugar (presumably granulated - I can't imagine icing sugar having much effect) and rubbing yourself all over with that. I've tried this and it absolutely works. It also leaves the shower perilously slippy, so do sluice it out or at least warn the person getting in after you - unless they've recently annoyed you and you want to get them back.

Back in my teen magazine days I'd often recommend rubbing vigorously at your elbows with the inside of a scooped-out avocado skin. What was I on about? 16 year-old girls' elbows aren't scaly. They are peachy soft. Anyway, I should confess that I have never tried this in my life. Nor did I whip up face packs from mashed banana, fresh cream or oatmeal. I didn't even see an avocado - apart from in pictures - until about 1986. But I'm a great believer in using an exfoliating product with some kind of skin-softening properties built in - especially on craggy areas like elbows, knees and feet. I always feel better after a good sanding down. The Espa range is fantastic, but possibly not for the broke days of January. Instead, my winter scrubs of choice come from Soap & Glory's extensive range: Sugar Crush and Pulp Friction are favourites. The range is often on offer at 3 for 2 in Boots.

Incidentally, while some friends find S&G's packaging too tacky and teenage for their liking, everything I've tried works brilliantly and I find their whole quirky thing immensely cheering on dark days. I like the fruity and burnt-sugary scents of their products, and I'd rather have a heap of their jaunty pink pots than one eye-wateringly expensive item from Space NK. Maybe I'm just the cheap and cheerful type.

Equally pleasurable is the slathering on of some kind of lotion, post your scrubbing endeavours. Heck, it's winter, we're indoors a lot - so we might as well feel silky soft. I'm currently alternating between Dr Hauschka Bodyoilie Citroen Lemongrass (not super-cheap: was a Christmas present) and the super-rich Righteous Butter (another Soap & Glory treat).

As for skincare, I've worked my way through enough ranges to come to the conclusion that it's not about price, it's about finding something that's pleasant to use, leaves skin pleasingly soft and doesn't cause a reaction. When my children were younger, and I could get away with presenting charity shop toys as new, I'd occasionally treat myself to something from Clarins or Clinique. Now, with school skiing trips and university looming, I've downscaled to Olay and Revlon moisturisers which do the job every bit as well.

As for hand cream: hugely important if you're out in all weathers, maybe walking the dog. Again I've tried dozens. King of them all is the mighty Hemp Hand Protector (Body Shop) which thrilled my kids a few years back due to its drug reference. Note: while hand cream is pretty essential, I don't go with the thinking that you need specialist creams for your neck, feet or whatever other areas might be resembling crepe paper. A decent rich body lotion isn't fussy about the parts it treats.

So basically, while I'm not too pernickety these days - or especially brand loyal - I feel it's important to treat ourselves during these wintry months when we don't have a tan to help us along. I mean, no one might even see your feet for another 12 weeks, but it's still a little depressing if they're gnarly. At least, that's what I tell myself when I head with my battered old credit card into Boots.

PS. Talking of dinosaurs, I just asked one of my sons why children love them so much. 'They're basically big lizards,' he replied. 'What's not to like?'

A note to my 32 year-old self

I was raking through some old photos for a magazine feature and came across this pic of me, very pregnant with Sam and Dex, in front of our last London home in Cyprus Street, Bethnal Green. I was so excited to be having twins. It'll be a doddle, I thought: two babies, one pregnancy. Bargain! I also thought I'd be back in my beloved office within a matter of days, having hired a nice nanny to take care of the practical aspects. Me, I'd enjoy the fun stuff - tickling, cuddling, baking cookies and reading beautiful picture books. 

Here's what I wish I'd known then. 

All the stuff you used to enjoy - films, books, drawing, playing an instrument - go out of the window for a while. I mean a long while - years, in fact. When they finally start creeping back into your life, you worry that you've forgotten what to do with them. For ages, I couldn't concentrate on any film more challenging than The Breakfast Club, Pretty In Pink or St Elmo's Fire. It was like being a teenager again - but with stretch marks and a fridge crammed with formula milk. But gradually things returned to normal - ie, occasionally I'd watch a film that didn't star Molly Ringwald, sometimes even with subtitles. 

You will wear those dungarees to death. I scoffed when my husband Jimmy insisted on buying them for me in an army and navy store in Paris. But they are the very best thing for a pregnant lady and became virtually welded to my rapidly expanding body. 

You think you'll work right up until the day before they are born, but you won't. My consultant wouldn't let me. So from six months onwards I lay around the house, spooning Ambrosia Creamed Rice straight to my mouth from the tin. I wish I'd known then to enjoy feeling faintly bored, as that was the last chance I had to be idle until eight years later, when our third child started school. Oh, and I never returned to my old job. I haven't had a regular salary since 1997 and hear that the workplace has changed a lot since then - for instance, you're not allowed booze in the office! How on earth do people get through the working day? 

Child-free friends will tell you about their glamorous nights out, or that they've just been to a spa and had their breasts exfoliated. You are allow to feel bitter - and even cry - over this. It does not make you a bad person. 

Your nanny plans will be swiftly forgotten. You'll become a control freak who'd rather do it - even the messy, mundane stuff - yourself. 

People will assume your twins were IVF (when they're not) and will challenge you on this delicate matter in the park. 'They must be!' one woman insisted, before adding, 'but I suppose you did have quite a high chance of having them... as an older mother.' People will say the most irksome things, and after a while they just wash over you (or make you laugh hysterically as you scamper home). You'll become remarkably tolerant because all that matters is getting your children out in the fresh air, then safely ferried home again whilst avoiding dog poo. 

Going to the hairdressers becomes such a hassle that you'll start having someone come round your house. She will chop at your hair in your bedroom while your babies crawl around, trying to eat it off the floor. It's not relaxing, and no one brings you a nice coffee or a glossy magazine - but at least your fringe is out of your eyes. 

People will tell you what you're doing wrong all the time. Ignore them. They know nothing. At least you know a bit. 

The toddler groups you thought would be hell are filled with like-minded women you'll rely on for your sanity. Sure, the coffee is bad, as are the pink wafer biscuits - but you now anticipate these get-togethers more eagerly than Christmas. 

You will glance wistfully at pretty lingerie in department stores, before moving swiftly on. You'll be in massive sensible knickers for quite a long time - possibly forever - and you will love them. 

That massive bump will go away, but not in a week. It doesn't matter. No one cared about celeb mothers shedding the baby weight within minutes, because the whole celebrity obsession hadn't really taken off back then. There was no sidebar of shame - there was the Internet, but no one knew what it was - and no one expected a raddled new mother to look radiant. You were allowed to be knackered with your hair sticking up. And you were allowed to wear your beloved dungarees well past childbirth, because they made look earthy as if you knew what motherhood was all about. 

And you soon become very adept at pretending you know what it's all about. 

The joy of Getting Ready

Last night my daughter Erin (centre) and her six friends descended on our house to get ready for the school Christmas dance. Remember the joy of getting ready? It was often the best part of the night. In fact sometimes I'd feel a slight twinge of disappointment when the time rolled around that we had to actually leave the house and go somewhere. Getting ready always happened with a friend, preferably at their place, as it was always more fun to be somewhere else. And it took so long! An hour at least, but more likely two or three - ie, approaching half of a normal working day. My life these days is generally about trying to achieve as much as possible in the shortest time. I can hardly remember how it felt to have virtually limitless time to spend on something so indulgent.

Of course, it wasn't really about applying make-up and tonging our hair. It was about being together, gossiping and sharing confidences and amidst clouds of loose powder and Elnett hairspray. There's something particularly intimate about the process of transformation; few people see us 'half done', after all. I always love those old black and white photos of Hollywood stars captured in deep concentration in their dressing rooms.

Our dressing rooms were our teenage bedrooms, plastered with Paul Weller posters and heady with Lulu perfume. My friend Karen's duvet cover was made from the same fabric as her curtains, which struck me as particularly chic. No boys were around as we caked on Rimmel foundation, although we'd discuss them in forensic detail, of course. When my children were younger I often found we'd have our most relaxed and revealing conversations when I was driving them somewhere. There's something about being engaged in another activity - crawling through traffic, applying mascara - that's conducive to easy and honest discussions.

Do I miss getting ready? Not especially, as it belongs to a time and a place that's long gone. It would seem as crazy as filling empty Soda Stream bottles with illicit booze to slug on the way to a party, and I hardly ever pull that stunt these days. It belongs to an era of getting dressed in something low-key, then throwing a carrier bag containing the 'real' outfit out of my bedroom window (to be retrieved and changed into in a phone box en route to the disco).

Getting ready these days takes about 15 minutes, even for a really posh do. I can hardly believe I'd once have spent ten times as long dolling myself up for a ropey old disco in a community hall. But they didn't seem ropey back then. I vividly remember the clothes we wore, the songs we danced to, and the elaborate plots we came up with in order to start conversations with boys. I remember Karen and I hitching a lift - I'd keel over from a heart attack if my daughter did that - to a disco in a neighbouring town.

So many things could go wrong with a night out. The boy you liked could get off with someone else, causing you to seek solace in too much Pernod and black. There were frequently fights in the loos and distraught friends to take care of. Worse still, that willing parent might have ignored instructions to wait around the corner, and parked right outside the venue for all to see. Putting your face on at a friend's house never involved such horrors. The getting ready part could never disappoint.

These days I'm the chauffeur and am used to tuning out as I transport a bunch of excitable teenagers home. I know better than to quiz them about how their evening was - because all they're going to say is, 'Fine.' But maybe it was merely fine, and getting ready was still the best part of the night.

Essential ingredients for getting ready: 

- Best friend(s)
- Music
- Parents/siblings well out of the way, out of earshot
- Cotton wool pads to mop off make-up mistakes
- Clear nail polish to glue snags in tights
- Cheap perfume
- Concealer
- Lipgloss
- A zillion accessories
- Hair tongs (I thought these had died out at around the time of fax machines but it would appear not!)
- Toe separators
- All the time in the world